Bongi Langa
Bongi Langa
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Vanessa Tsutsu
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Unathi Charles
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Tshepiso Selokela
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March 25, 2019
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March 25, 2019
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March 25, 2019
Bongi Langa
In all honestly this is one of the best books. I love the fact that it is also so realistic. It is a great read in a world where men and women are now all equals when at all levels. Don't get me wrong I'm here for all that we are all equal and should be treated equally however, as a wife I am expected to submit to my husband and it is the husband's duty to give the wife something to submit to. For example when Nathi and Tshidi has their session with Dr S... he pointed out how the while fish smelled bad because the head is rotton. He pointed to Nathi and told him it's because the head which is him is rotten now the whole body, he also pointed to Tshidi and that she is the neck that directs the head. Notice how this these limbs work together.

I also loved the fact that Nathi was honestly and clear with his intentions and expectations from Tshidi in the beginning, in that sense he allowed Tshidi to make a decision for herself whether or not she was going to stay in the relationship. He opened up his world to her from the 1st date and simultaneously Tshidi opened up her fear to him when he found her in her apartment beaten and bruised, Nathi could have simply walked away but again it was his decision to stay.

Another point that stood out for me was the fact that this book made us understand that we are all humans and make mistakes but communicating is key. As much as Nathi was control (which from my view I don't see it as controlling, he was doing what a husband should do for his family protect them at any cost) Tshidi was able to express herself and not utterly disrespect him.

I think this book was written by a women for women. I personally think it demonstrates how and what a marriages entails... it's about always sunshine and roses but if respect and love us the foundation of a relationship yal can get through anything.